DEAR SAD: You are all adults. Your son was a mile out of line to do what he did. Why would he be patrolling your home? Personally, I think what he did was a little sick. This is not a question of winning or losing. For your own sake, you must not allow him to tell you how to conduct your personal life. I would recommend family therapy for all of you if your self-righteous son would agree. But if he won’t, my advice to you is to live your own life.
DEAR ABBY: I am getting married soon to the best guy ever, and I couldn’t be more excited. My older sister is my maid of honor, and she has been doing an amazing job with the planning of my bachelorette party, showers, etc. Two years ago, my sister was engaged to a man named “Sean.” Six months before their wedding, Sean broke the engagement without warning, and along with it, my sister’s and my family’s hearts. About a month ago, they decided to get back together and are trying to make things work. My fiance and I have decided not to invite Sean to our wedding. We believe it’s too soon for him to be around the family, but more importantly, we don’t think our wedding day is an appropriate time for him to be “re-introduced.” Is it selfish to exclude him from our nuptials? How should we tell my sister? — SELFISH IN THE WEST
DEAR SELFISH: I’m glad you asked. While it’s your right as the bride to exclude whomever you choose, it would be selfish and I strongly advise you — for the sake of future family harmony — not to do this. Your sister has been doing everything she can to make this milestone event in your life wonderful. To exclude Sean would be a poor way to thank her for her efforts.
DEAR READERS: Have a very happy and healthy Fourth of July, everyone. And please be safe! — LOVE, ABBY
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