Local health worker equates domestic abuse to terrorism

Published February 9, 2013
By Rex Barber and Brad Hicks - Press Staff Writers

When you think of terrorists, you may think of someone in another country plotting attacks against civilians, but domestic violence here at home is terrorism too, according to a local mental health professional.

The aggressor in a domestic violence situation commonly uses fear to manipulate and control the victim or victims, which is what a terrorist does, said Tim Perry, division director for children and youth for Frontier Health.

“You know, domestic violence is a form of terrorism,” Perry said.

Women are the most common victims of domestic violence, though anyone can be abused. Often children are the victims.

“There is a good bit of children who are traumatized by domestic violence,” Perry said.

Perry cited statistics that indicate 15.5 million children in the United States have been in a domestic violence situation. That number does not reflect unreported instances, only those where intervention has occurred.

According to the Domestic Violence National Statistics website, a woman is battered in this country every 15 seconds by her husband, boyfriend or live-in-partner; domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women between the ages of 15 and 44, and these injuries are more common than those caused by vehicle crashes, muggings and rapes combined; and research has indicated that half of all women will experience some form of violence from their partners during marriage, and that one-third are repeatedly battered each year.

These statistics and more information can be found at www.ncadv.org.

Tennessee in particular has high numbers of domestic violence instances, according to statistics gathered by Tina Johnson, program director for SAFE House, a program funded by a state and federal grant as well as United Way funding. SAFE House operates under the umbrella of Frontier Health to provide assistance for victims of domestic abuse.

Johnson cited a Tennessee Bureau of Investigation report that indicated more women are reportedly killed by men in this state than in the majority of the country.

Additionally, according to the TBI study, around 85,000 domestic violence instances happen each year in the state; out of every 100,000 women, 1.91 were killed by men in Tennessee.

Last year SAFE House provided shelter to or assisted via a hotline 300 victims of domestic violence in this region. Shelter was given to 72 women and 51 children, according to numbers from Johnson.

Domestic violence can occur at any socioeconomic level and among any demographic of the population, but there are some contributing factors that Perry said are common. Poverty is an aggravating factor, as is substance abuse, parents or guardians who were abused as children and mental illness.

Victims of domestic violence who become involved with Frontier Health are provided a safe location through the SAFE House program as the first order of business. After safety has been established, family and individual therapy is offered, because domestic violence is traumatic, Perry said.

Perry said the counseling and therapy helps instill self confidence, self reliance and coping skills while victims re-establish themselves and develop plans for the future.

Children are particularly affected by domestic violence in that it can alter their development. Traumatic experiences from an abusive situation can be carried over into the teen years and adulthood. Perry said the good news is that research has shown that the earlier someone intervenes in a domestic violence situation, the more likely children are to not experience long term effects.

Domestic violence victims, especially children, have high anxiety, depression, a tendency to act out and have poor coping skills.

“They often live in a state of constant fear,” Perry said. “Many children blame themselves because they feel that it’s their fault their parents are fighting and all this violence.”

But leaving an abusive situation is very hard, Perry noted.

Perry said it is easy for people from the outside to make assumptions about what to do in a domestic violence situation, but it is a lot more difficult to free yourself from that kind of environment because the victim has often been controlled into a state of perceived helplessness.

“So breaking that cycle is a very difficult thing and it’s hard for a woman or child to break free from that,” Perry said. “It’s a very difficult place for a woman to be in and without support, encouragement and people out there to help them, it can become very difficult to get out of that situation.”

Still, leaving a violent home life begins with that first phone call, Perry said. Besides Frontier Health, there are other options for victims of domestic violence.

“Amidst the despair of it there is hope for families that are in a domestic violence situation,” Perry said.

Erwin Police Chief Regan Tilson said when officers of his department respond to domestic violence situations, they advise victims of their right to be safe and will transport victims to a safe location. He also said officers will serve orders of protection against offenders. Victims may also receive bond release notifications, which will alert victims if an offender is released from custody and allow them to get to a safe location.

Tilson also said local law enforcement turns to the CHIPS Family Violence Shelter organization when confronted with domestic violence situations. CHIPS — an acronym for Change is Possible — is located in Erwin and serves Unicoi, Carter and Greene counties.

CHIPS Community Educator Elaine King said the organization’s mission is to provide services and shelter to victims of and children involved in domestic violence situations that will “enable them to begin a life free of violence.”

King said CHIPS offers 24-hour crisis counseling, a safe, confidential shelter for victims, a court advocate to help guide victims through the legal process, case planning and referral to the appropriate support services. King also said education about domestic violence is crucial, and she often visits organizations, such as schools, to provide this education.

“A lot of people are not aware of the effects and, for a lot of people, if it’s not right in their families, they kind of dismiss it or ignore it,” she said. “I just try to bring awareness to the fact that it does exist and the effects it has, not only on families, the victims, but also on the community.”

King said CHIPS also provides workshops for victims to educate them on what to look for with healthy relationships and warning signs of a possibly abusive person.

While King said CHIPS has a good working relationship with both the Erwin Police Department and Unicoi County Sheriff’s Department, she said victims not wishing to involve the police can still turn to CHIPS for assistance. She said CHIPS does not contact the authorities unless child abuse is suspected.

King also said a victim of domestic violence who leaves may return to the situation five to seven times, but added that CHIPS is always there for victims whenever needed.

“A lot of times we’ll have victims who just want to talk, they just want information,” she said. “Anyone who calls us or comes to our office, everything is strictly confidential. We share information with no one.”

CHIPS can be reached at its Erwin office at 743-0022 or via its 24-hour hotline at 388-8281.

An information box with resources for victims accompanies this article.

The best way for a victim to reach SAFE House is to call Contact Concern 211 or 246-2273. The National Domestic Violence Hotline can locate and direct the caller to a shelter anywhere in the United States. That number is 800-799-SAFE (7233).

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StopTheIgnoranceNow writes:

February 9, 2013
10:42 PM

Basic information useful but this is just an unpaid advertisement for Frontier Health.

MannyCalavera writes:

February 9, 2013
11:38 PM

"Terrorism" has become a synonym for "bad thing", with no meaning beyond that.

tiredoldgal writes:

February 10, 2013
4:23 AM

Thank you for letting women know there is help available. Someone is filing this information away for use sooner or later. You may have helped save a life.

Manny and Stop, clearly you are both dominant males who have never known fear and don't have a clue. Until you have been there you should not judge. Terrorism means "the use of violence and threats to intimidate or coerce" which is exactly what happens in abusive relationships. What else do you call it when a man slaps a woman around for no reason except to assure himself he's man? When a man has a woman convinced that if she leaves him, he will find her and kill her? Sure they may not really mean it but how can you know for sure when you are nursing bruises? It happens all too often. Fear is a powerful thing, especially when your life, and possibly the lives of your children, are on the line.

Stop, Frontier Health is mentioned one time and there are no fees or charges for these services so what is your comment about? These safe houses save lives. Do you have a problem with that?

nonono writes:

February 10, 2013
4:50 AM

My dictionary reads: "the use of violence and threats to intimidate or coerce, especially for political purposes."

You left the last part out, tiredoldgal.

By your definition, when one dominant male assaults, robs, or mugs another dominant male (you know, using of violence and threats to intimidate or coerce) then that is now terrorism. Domestic violence is now the same thing as 9/11. Road rage is the same as the IRA blowing up a building. Using the same word for things is to equate them. Some of us think that makes the word "terrorism" essentially meaningless. And some of think that is stupid. We already have a term for domestic violence, that is... "domestic violence." That term readily evokes everything you want it to: fear, intimidation, and of course, violence. But rarely, if ever, does domestic violence involve a political, religious or ideological agenda.

But terrorism almost always does. So let's try and use the proper words for things.

I don't have an opinion about Frontier health, but I do have opinions about the English language and about the law. Calling domestic violence "terrorism" is pointless and counterproductive, and it really does seems like a PR stunt. And I don't think I have to be an abused person (male or female) to have that opinion.

But thanks for trying to shut down the discussion. That's very productive.

tiredoldgal writes:

February 10, 2013
5:30 AM

Thank you for correcting me. Your opinion is just that, your opinion. If you want to be picky, the definition is "Especially for political purposes" not "Only for political purposes". Prior to 9/11 there would have been no argument about this.

Why so picky about a word and nothing about the subject? Is it okay if we don't use certain words when speaking about it? I do not understand how it can be counterproductive to try to make people understand how horrible this situation can be. And yes, I have been there so YES it is terrorism when you are being beaten by someone who is trying to kill you and tells you he will find you no matter where you go. AND yes, you really need to have felt the feelings to understand them, apparently.

As for shutting down the discussion, you are the one focusing on a word, rather than the problem.

nonono writes:

February 10, 2013
6:44 AM

That's right, we're discussing the word, not the subject. I missed the part where Manny or Stop suggested that domestic violence was no big deal, or a good thing. And I'm not personally interested in discussing it, because even though I haven't been in an abusive relationship myself, I already know that it is horrible thing. There's nothing to debate. I hope anyone in an abusive relationship can get help and get out, and I'm glad that you seem to have done so yourself. There's nothing to argue or discuss there. But we *can* discuss whether or not we should use the word "terrorism" to describe it. I believe that domestic violence is a horrible thing and a serious problem, but that doesn't mean we should "equate" it to 9/11 or Lockerbie or the things the IRA did.

I did catch the part, however, where you told everybody not to judge unless they had personally experienced domestic abuse themselves.

I definitely take issue with that. I think I understand that you have very strong feelings about this subject, and want to increase awareness, but I don't think that's the way to go about it.

But if you, or Mr. Perry, want to call domestic violence terrorism, by all means, continue to do so.

Just don't expect everyone to go along with it.

Remove Money from Politics writes:

February 10, 2013
8:32 AM

Look no further than the local churches who insist that the woman's role is to clean the home, cook dinner, and most importantly be quiet. This is a big part of the problem since it validates the abuser's behavior.

Remove Money from Politics writes:

February 10, 2013
8:55 AM

By the way, this is not to say that men aren't victims or can't be victims, because they are and in higher numbers than any statistic will show. Society says men are supposed to "man up" or "suck it up" when a women abuse them, and there are no shelters for men. This is another big problem that gets ignored by most of the media and most domestic violence advocates as well.

tiredoldgal writes:

February 10, 2013
9:05 AM

I apologize for sounding as if everyone had to experience the extreme end of domestic violence to understand it. I was speaking to nono in particular, which is why the apparently is on the end of the sentence. Most people I have spoken with over the years have compassion and understanding of situations that go beyond generic domestic violence one can walk away from and the hostage-type situation that requires a shelter and assistance to escape from.

And I heartily agree more needs to be done to help men in this situation. It needs to be recognized it can happen to anyone across all income levels and walks of life.

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